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Forgiveness Feb 3, 2017


Despite my yoga, meditation and effort in walking the path, forgiveness is something I continue to struggle with - self-forgiveness and forgiveness for others. Let's all be human and face it - it's hard to forgive and even harder if the person deliberately did it and show no remorse. It's easier to put his balls in a nut-cracker! But when we let this anger or hatred keep residency inside us, who suffers? HIm? For all I care, he could be partying now while I'm feeling miserable because of something he did 10 years ago. Doesn't make sense, does it?

Pain and the Hurt
As we go through life we meet people who hurt us...sometimes deliberately and show no remorse. Sometimes, even with best of intentions, shit still happens and we get hurt again. But that's life. Nobody needs to take the blame, but we feel the need to point a finger at someone. We have no control of that. But how we deal with it, is something we can fully control - we have a choice.

Poison within the Body
One choice is to let the pain ferment and fester in our system. Most people do that. For some, it feels good. We put ourselves on a moral pedestal, claiming, "I'd been wronged, life owes me." It's a personal drama people play up. It can be addicting. That's also why some people stay in abusive relationships.

But while we're stuck with this anger, we cannot be happy. It's difficult to be happy when you harbor such bitterness inside you. It's hard to move on. Yet we carry this burden for many years or sometimes, indefinitely.

forgiveness is freedom

Why We Should Forgive
Another choice is to forgive. But forgiveness is hard. If it were easy, everybody would be forgiving. So let us forgive not for their sake, but for our sake. Forgive with no expectation of apology. Do it just because it's about us...not about this guy. Because when we forgive, we begin to heal and we put the past in its rightful place. We create space for love to shine even the most painful of places.

When we don't Forgive
When we cannot forgive, we sustain the negative bond that tethers you to that person - you eat with him, you sleep with him, spend your day with him and see him first thing when you wake up in the morning. This person who hurt you. Only forgiveness melts that chain and allows you to move on, free of that person. Forgiveness gives you freedom.

Forgiveness doesn't mean what they did was means we simply let go because the past cannot be undone. Forgiveness is me giving up my intention to hurt this guy, for hurting me. But again, forgiveness is not easy. It is only for the strong and the brave. Because a weak person cannot forgive.

As Mark Twain said, "Forgiveness is the fragrance the flower sheds on the heel that has crushed it."


  1. Anapana breathing meditation - always start the meditation session with Anapana to prime the mind in a meditative state. Click the link.
  2. Varada mudraForgiveness Mudra - as we remain seated in our most comfortable pose, let's put our left palm facing up on our lap, right palm facing up on our knee with fingers lying low. This is the mudra for forgiveness (Varada Mudra)
  3. Forgiving the Self - Now, let's focus our minds on forgiveness. Before we can forgive others, let us first look within. Let us forgive ourselves first. Sometimes, we are simply too hard on ourselves. Even with the best of intentions, shit still happens. It doesn't necessarily mean someone needs to take the blame. It doesn't mean you need to take the blame. Things just happen. Forgive yourself. It's not your fault.
  4. Forgiving Others - forgiving other people is difficult enough. But how do you forgive someone who shows no remorse?
  5. Let it Go - visualize this wrong doing, bring it out of your system and set it free. Let it go. Let it go. Watch it drift away and watch it dissipate into full compliance to the law of impermanence.

Ending Thoughts
When we forgive, we unshacle our bondage from bitterness. The first person to benefit from our forgiveness is ourselves.

--- TheLoneRider
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